How often do you feel lost and confused in life?
Probably quite often. And that’s because life is like operating a high-tech machine without any instruction manual. You have to learn things on your own and figure out the rules of the game, or you will be left behind.
So, here are 7 harsh truths to better understand the game of life. They will help you set the right expectations and empower you to give your best in any situation.
These truths will build mental toughness and resilience for facing setbacks. If you keep them in mind, you will be unbeatable.
1. Nothing Teaches Better than Failures
Failure makes you humble. It gives you experience, lets you know your mistakes, and tells you how to improve.
Failure removes the fog of confusion and puts things into perspective. It makes you tough to deal with any crises and bounce back strong.
But hardly anybody wants to fail, and almost everybody wants to succeed. Many of us fear failure so much that the thought of it makes us paralyzed to take any action. And this is why we may run away from things like:
- Applying to jobs
- Starting our business
- Asking someone out on a date
- Sharing our art with the world
Here, you have to understand that if you avoid failure, you will miss the lessons it teaches. You must have the courage to fall if you want to stand strong.
So, take calculated risks and do what your heart tells you. Failure is not your enemy but a friend who shows the right direction.
2. Problems are Inevitable
You will always have problems. No matter what you do, where you go, or who you live with.
Life is all about solving one problem after another. If you fix your current financial issues, some relationship challenges may pay you a visit. If you sort the relationship thing, you may then struggle with stress and anxiety. And it goes on like this.
Now, this is where people go wrong: they think they will be happy once there are no problems. They wait for that perfect moment to start doing something.
The result? They never become happy and never start that something.
So put this thing in your mind: problems aren’t bad. They are what make your story interesting and adventurous. Just like powerful villains make a movie exciting.
If you had no problems, believe me, your life would have been very boring. So don’t run away from them, but develop a problem-solving attitude.
And always look for the opportunities hidden behind the curtain of problems.
3. Time Travel is Easier than Pleasing Everyone
Name some of the greatest people who walked on earth.
Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., Steve Jobs, Marie Curie, Albert Einstein, etc.
Now tell me: were these great people loved by all?
Nope, they were hated and criticized on a mass level. They couldn’t make everybody happy.
In fact, nobody in the history of mankind could make everybody happy, no matter how ideal a life they lived. So what chance do we have?
Accept that you will be disliked. Take it as a fact. Even if you do all those noble things like helping the needy or planting trees to fight global warming, people will still hate you.
So forget the haters. Forget everybody, even those who like you. And shift all your focus on yourself. Do what you have to do, do what you think is right, do what makes you happy.
4. Everybody is Fighting Their Own Battles
Nowadays, almost everybody on social media is happy and living exciting lives. You might see people who are:
- Earning 6 figures
- Buying impressive houses
- Spending time on incredible beaches
And they may make you feel incapable or unlucky. Because you are neither happy nor successful like them. In fact, you may be struggling in your job or facing uncertainty about your future.
But you know what the truth is? Everybody is struggling in their life.
People earning six figures may be burnt out. Those buying their houses may have huge mortgages. Those spending time on beaches may be feeling lonely inside.
They just don’t share these things on social media. Because nobody shares these things on social media.
So don’t believe everything you see. There can be a massive difference between what’s happening outside and inside. Know that everybody is fighting their own battles. And you aren’t alone.
5. Growth is Never Easy
We all want to grow in our lives. You may be trying to:
- Master a skill
- Earn more money
- Improve in academics
- Build a better physique
- Be more happy and fulfilled
But whatever way you are trying to grow, it won’t be easy.
See, nature has to balance things. If it had been easy, everyone would have done it. Then there would be nothing special about it.
For instance, do your friends congratulate you when you sleep for 7 hours? No! That’s because we all do that.
Similarly, if building a muscular body was something everybody could do, then it wouldn’t be such a big thing. Only because it needs a lot of hard work, it’s something.
So, growth is always difficult. And the difficulty is what makes it valuable. If you want to grow and live a better life, you have to pay the price in the form of effort, discipline, and focus.
6. Money Can’t Buy Happiness
“I will be happy when I am a millionaire.”
“I will be happy when I have enough money to travel the world.”
“I will be happy when I buy that sexy car.”
This was my mindset a few years ago. I assumed that I couldn’t be happy just because I didn’t have money. And I think most of us do the same. We attach our happiness to external things and forget that happiness is inside.
It’s true that money can give you comfort and status. But this doesn’t guarantee happiness and satisfaction.
Many rich people suffer from diseases, face greater risk of crimes, don’t have much free time, and struggle with all other problems money can’t solve.
I am not saying you shouldn’t go after money. By all means, you should. But don’t expect that money will make you happy. True and lasting happiness comes from living a meaningful life. Hence:
- Spread happiness
- Help people in need
- Follow your curiosity
- Be passionate about any art
- Spend quality time with your family
All these will make you happier than any amount of money.
7. You are Going to Die
Death is the most certain thing in this world. Everybody who has taken birth will die. No matter how rich, famous, or powerful they are.
Even right now, as you are reading this, someone somewhere is dying. (1 or 2 people die every second in the world.)
I am not telling you this to scare you. I just want you to stop taking life for granted. I want you to understand how precious life is and realize the importance of time you have.
And at the same time, I want you to not take life too seriously. Because anyway, you are going to die one day. There is nothing to lose and everything to gain.
So, go and chase your goals and create the life you dream about. The clock is ticking.